i think that Atticus has a strong influence on scout and jem however he doesnt give them as much attention as a mother would show. He tries to discipline them as much as possible and relys on calpurnia to be their motherly figure. Jem and scout look up to Atticus.
http://www.drjamesdobson.org/images/DefaultDonateFamily_slider.png question: Why doesnt Atticus marry another women if he knows that the children need a mother?
Hey Tania! I think Atticus does not marry another woman because deep in his heart he still loves his wife, and that he feels Calpurnia does a good job being the kids'mother. Although she is black, she is well qualified and takes care of them by cooking for them and looking after them.
Hey Tania! I agree with your point that Atticus gives them a lot of discipline and how a mother need to be there to give them the attention. I think Calpurnia is doing a great job of helping raise both Jem and Scout by continually telling them what is wrong and what is right.
Hey Tania! I have to disagree with your opinion of how he doesn't give them as much attention. Atticus actually does give A LOT of attention. For example, when Scout was mad and sad after the whole problem with her teacher and the kid at school, Atticus was right there to comfort her and show her what is wrong and what is right.
Hey Tania! I disagree because Atticus probably thinks Calpurnia already does a great job of taking the "motherly" place of the family. For example, she scolds Scout when Scout remarks on the way Walter Cunningham ate his dinner at the Finch's house. Also, I don't think Atticus is the type of man to remarry another woman, because it seems he loved his wife very much, and he will never forget her.
Atticus does give quite a lot of attention to his kids, more so than most parents in fact, because he tries to take his own advice and walk around in their shoes.
Atticus takes his role as a single parent seriously and wants to raise his kids with a good moral rectitude. When Jem annihilates Mrs. Dubose's flowers, Atticus comes home in a fit of cold anger, telling Jem to immediately go back and apologize. Atticus controls himself well under stress and has not yelled at Jem and Scout before. However, a father can only do so much. According to research a healthy family needs the love of a mother-like figure, which can be presented in Calpurnia, which is one of the reasons why Atticus wants Calpurnia to stay; she is part of the family.
This photo shows how Atticus may feel on the inside without the external support and love from a spouse.
Question: Do you think Atticus does a good job of raising his kids? Keep in mind the usual chatter others may have against his kids, and Atticus' own POV. Ex: While Aunt Alexandra thinks Atticus does a bad job, Atticus says "Sister, I do the best I can with them!"
Hey Jonathan! I agree with your point when Atticus sends Jem directly back to apologize to Mrs. Dubose. If Atticus would never told tell them what was wrong and what was right, both Scout and Jem would be very bad. I also believe that without Calpurnia, the Finch family would never succeed and be even poorer than Walter's family.
Answer to your question: Yes, I do think that Atticus does a good job of raising his kids. It does not matter what others say what is right or wrong with they way he takes care of the kids. I think that Atticus proves the point to Jem and Scout that they control their life and it does not matter what others say.
To your question, I think that Atticus does a good job raising his kids. THey are tolerant to everyone(well, almost everyone) and he makes sure to do what is best for them no matter what.
Atticus is one of the few people in the world that actually want to raise their children correctly. Many children that are living with a single parent have a high chance of never growing up correctly. At many times, the father who is the only person to take care of the child becomes a drunkard and never will become sober. When Jem or Scout do things that are unappreciative towards others, Atticus quickly tells them what is right so that they can learn from their mistakes. Even though that Atticus raises the children the best he can, the kids still need a mother, which is why Atticus has hired Calpurnia.
The picture shows how something can happen that can separate a family.
Hey Rohun. I have to disagree with your view on Atticus' parenting and single parents in general. I was raise my entire life with a single parent and a lot of my friends and other family members have also. We are all good kids and it doesn't matter whether you have a single parent (including single fathers) or two parents, it all depends on how they parent. Contrary, I know a few kids who have two parents and they can be more out of hand than those with one parent. Divorces may not always be a bad thing either, sometimes it's the only way to solve a problem. I think Atticus does a good job of representing how being a single parent is difficult, but can still be effective in raising good people.
Well Jalyssa, I believe in more people that the pod has died, this can convict to being more of the second parent not wanting to enjoy life as much as they did before.
I don't think Scout is a tomboy just because she has no real mother. Calpurnia does a great job taking over the mother's job, and if anything, Scout should be a real girl. Scout is a tomboy just because that's who she is, possibly influenced by her brother, but not because she has no mother. You were wrong in your observation: Scout even says she doesn't remember her mother much.
Agreed, Atticus actually tries to connect with his kids and understand their lives. However, i take Jalyssa's side on the single parent issue, I've been raised by a single mom since i was 9 months old, and i only see my dad for about 3-4 weeks out of the year, but I'm still what people would call a "good kid"
I believe your view on Atticus' parenting is indeed correct and I agree that most of the other dads are drunkards and leave their wives to take care of the kids.
I believe that scout is a tomboy because of the male influence in her life. Dill Jem and Atticus all play a major factor in this. She wants to fit in. So she acts like a tomboy.
As a single parent, especially being a dad not mom, Atticus is doing a great job of teaching and taking care of Jem and Scout. He is always there for them when they have question or problem and makes sure to tell them which is right. He even sometimes gives THEM the chance to choose the right road. The only problem with him as a single parent, is that he makes Calpurnia do the cooking, some of the disciplining, and take care of the children when he's gone.
http://www.fpguru.com/cms/images/stories/single_parent.png This picture proves my point that it doesn't have to take two parents to fulfill the task of parenting.
My question: Why didn't Atticus ever tell Jem and Scout about his "job" as a "gunner?"
I think that Atticus didn't tell Jem and Scout he was a gunner is because he didn't want them playing with guns or doing anything that might harm them. If he had told them then he would be hypocritical and it would make the children think it would be okay for them to do the same.
I think that Atticus didn't tell Jem and Scout about his talent with guns because he knew that his children look up to him as a role model, and doing dangerous things would influence them in the wrong way and possible endanger their lives.
I think Atticus is slightly ashamed that he had a job as a 'gunner.' I believe so because now he believes in equality and justice. Also, if you own a gun and shoot living things, it criticizes the idea of equality.
Hey JJ! You said that you thought the task of parenting could be fulfilled by just a single parent. How does Atticus, then, fill the role of a white mother in a southern society? Remember that the book also mentioned that "Atticus was just a man" and couldn't understand some girl issues.
Yeah i agree with ALbert. I dont think you can ever fully replace a mother because she'll always care for you even when a father doesn't have time for you. Scout didn't have anyone when Jem and Dill started excluding her, she just went to Ms. Maudie which shows that sometimes a female figure is needed. A
Justin, I don;t think Atticus told his kids about being a gunner because it is not something he is especially proud of. He does it when it is needed, but it is not something he would, in essence, brag about. Being a lawyer, he wants to be taken seriously.
As I mentioned while commenting Rohun's comment, I think Atticus is doing a pretty good job raising his children as a single father. Although he is not the perfect parent, he is only human. Parenting is a hard thing to do, and most people have a partner to help them, Atticus doesn't. Think about it, he lost his wife, yet he still holds his head up and is a successful lawyer both for himself and his children. He is not bitter or depressed, he's strong for his children and that's what matters. His children respect them, even if they don't agree with everything he does, but no kid really agrees with their parents all the time. In short, Atticus' parenting has some flaws, but he is doing the best he can in supporting for his children, thus fulfilling the parent figure. http://winecountrymom.blogs.santarosamom.com/files/2010/05/single-parent1.jpg Read this and think about the hardest time in your life, then add two crying infants who have dirty diapers.
I agree with you Jalyssa. I think that although Atticus is not very close to Jem and Scout, he still is seen as a figure to be respected. They respect him and listen to what he has to say. As Jem and Scout see how courageous Atticus is, they begin to have courage as well.
Your attached media Jalyssa is quite powerful. I could not fathom the hardships that accompany the role of a single parent. Raising children into healthy, successful individuals without the mental, physical, and financial help of a significant other is an extremely difficult task and in my eyes, a talent. Single parents who have the ability to bring forth outstanding human beings into this world all by their lone selves truly are super heroes.
I believe that when Scout thinks of her mom, she sees Calpurnia. Scout does not remember her mother very well, and Calpurnia has been a role model and figure that has been there for her all her life, so Calpurnia is the most likely choice
I think that when Scout thinks of her mom, she thinks of Calpurnia because she never saw her mother before. On the other hand, Calpurnia has been there for Scout for many years, so she has become sort of the "mother" of Scout.
I think Calpurnia is more of a mom to Scout than her birth mother ever was, since Calpurnia has actually known Scout through her childhood. Scout barely knows her real mother, so Calpurnia serves as the main motherly figure in Scout's life.
I think that Atticus is doing a good job of raising Jem and Scout. Even though he lost his wife and has to support the family by himself, he does not complain and he is not depressed. It must be pretty hard for Atticus since he can't provide the love that two parents would give to his children. http://www.cartoonstock.com/lowres/mfl0359l.jpg
I agree with you Elijah. Atticus does a really good job putting in the hard work and effort into successfully raising Jem and Scout. He takes the burden of two parents and does not complain nor give up.
As a single parent, I think that Atticus tries to raise his kids using the best of his abilities. With the help of Calpurnia, I think that the kids are in a great environment where each day they can learn new things. Atticus is putting his best effort in to discipline his children and teach them the way of life and how it should be lived.
MY question is: To Jem and Scout, do you think that Calpurnia is more of a housekeeper or more of a mother? http://www.kidclipart.net/free_kid_clip_art_pictures/scrawny_cartoon_kid_trying_to_build_muscles_by_lifting_weights_0515-1103-1504-4317_SMU.jpg A picture that shows how Atticus must have felt trying to be both the father and mother.
Hey Bill! I think that Calpurnia is more of a mother to Jem and Scout, but the problem is that she can never be like their real mother. This is a southern society filled with the racist attitudes that whites were superior to blacks, and to have a black mother was frowned upon in that time. Cal still has a maternal presence, as she rebukes Scout for not being nice to the guests and teaches them morals, things a normal housekeeper wouldn't do.
I agree Calpurnia is a motherlike figure to jem and scout and that she really can never be a real mother to them. discrimination in this society does have a major effect to the attitudes towards colored people
The life of a single parent is hard. Your husband, or wife, has either passed away or left you, and you will be very lonely. Only your children can comfort you, and not even that will be enough. You must do everything alone: caring for your kids, working at your jobs, cleaning up the house, etc. I believe Atticus does well raising his children Jem and Scout. He doesn't complain, he only does his best teaching his children and keeping them from trouble.
Question: Although he is a good parent, why doesn't Atticus get more involved into his children's lives? http://profile.ak.fbcdn.net/hprofile-ak-snc4/27536_115304025172779_6711_n.jpg This is a picture of a dad nagging and yelling at his son. It seems like he's angry, but he does it out of love, which Atticus is never seen doing to Scout or Jem.
I totally agree with your thoughts because when Aunt Alexandra comes to Atticus's house, she forces and pressures Atticus into becoming a more strict and disciplined father. However, Jem and Scout find it very unusual because Atticus never actually pushed them to be "normal" Finches.
I believe Atticus never noses into his children's business or nags them because he is just not that type of person. Even in court when the argument escalates he still manages to act courteous and detached to a certain point.
Atticus has lived as a single parent for so long that the children are used to having only Atticus as their parent. I believe that Atticus is doing an excellent job with raising his children because Jem and Scout slowly begin to show their individual thinking as they grow up. Atticus has showed so much care for his children, but when Aunt Alexandra suddenly shows up, she turns the whole household around. Atticus teaches his children to be self-disciplined yet independent in their thoughts.
This picture shows a young child in the middle of a long and windy road. With the help of a parent, the child can be guided through the long and windy roads of life.
The media you attached Athena is reflective of this time period and is almost symbolic of Scout. Scout must face the road full of obstacles placed before her, with the support of Jem and Atticus. Atticus is doing his best to encourage her on.
As a lawyer, Atticus is able to calmly and objectively handle the situations at hand. Similarly, Atticus handles his kids and their actions with a "courteously detached" but firm manner. As a single parent and with the only help from Calpurnia, he has done relatively well. His children generally follow his demands, and threats, and are generally well-behaved. Though Aunt Alexandra thinks otherwise, Scout is still an innocent, little girl with good intentions. Though I am personally starting to dislike Jem as he grows up and starts changing dramatically, he means well also.
Kiyaan, i agree with you on what you said about him not putting himself in front of his kids, because that wouldnt be good parenting. Also, i think that he does a very good job of dealing with the death of his wife and pushing himself to keep the kids well mannered and not breaking down inside and doing a very good job at his role of being a single father.
I think that Aunt Alexandra was trying to push Atticus into teaching and disciplining his children to be the "normal" Finch. Aunt Alexandra wants Scout to be more lady-like and to mature. However, Scout is slowly maturing and growing into Atticus's shoes. Aunt Alexandra sees Scout's growing as unusual and tries to push her into the image of the normal Finch.
Question: When Aunt Alexandra comes into the Finch family, she turns the way of living upside down. Why doesn't Atticus reject her help when she is trying to slowly conform them into the ideal Finch family?
Atticus probably tries to avoid arguments out of respect for his sister, but he definitely disagrees with many of her beliefs. As Scout observes, he quarrels much more with Aunt Alexandra than with anyone else.
I think Atticus handles his role as a father well for being a single parent. He listens and talks to his kids when he has the time and always put his children first. He also gives them good advice that they can apply in the future. One example was when Scout starts talking to Mr. Cunningham in Chapter 15 and remembers how Atticus said ..." it was the polite thing to talk about what they were interested in..." (154) Also, with no mother, the kids would never experience a motherly relationship. However, I think Calpurnia treats the kids as if they were her own.
picture. I think it shows how his kids are growing up and maturing. http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_PxGxshtZkvA/TFWYgTenkqI/AAAAAAAAAVg/awSL1qsv9GY/s1600/Hoster-Flower_Blooming.jpg
My question: Do you guys think Tom Robinson and Boo Radley have similar personalities?
I do not necessarily think that they have similar personalities. However, I do believe that they share the same feelings and emotions throughout the novel. Both experience the feeling of loneliness. Boo Radley is hidden in the dark, and is slowly being "eatten away" by the harsh words and thoughts shared by the community surrounding him. Tom Robinson is a black man being accused of crime against a white women, and is openly hated by the majority of society.Both characters indirectly share the same treatment from society.
Atticus is a great single parent, because usually children with a single parent may be a little different than children with both parents. People used to say little children would be unhappy since they wouldn't receive any of their mom's love, but Scout and Jem are able to happy even without receiving any of their mom's love. Due to a motherly figure, Cupernicus, they both are able learn things they would have learned from their mother. Even though Atticus may be busy he always had the time to sit down and talk to his child about the problem. PICTURE:http://www.google.com/imgres?um=1&hl=en&biw=1280&bih=656&tbm=isch&tbnid=Vd0hfKU_ysYaWM:&imgrefurl=http://www.clipartof.com/portfolio/prawny/illustration/childs-sketch-of-a-father-holding-hands-with-his-son-and-daughter-216177.html&docid=c55WAuw-c7W7FM&imgurl=http://images.clipartof.com/small/216177-Royalty-Free-RF-Clipart-Illustration-Of-A-Childs-Sketch-Of-A-Father-Holding-Hands-With-His-Son-And-Daughter.jpg&w=450&h=275&ei=c-EYT_7wIInaiQLb5q3cCA&zoom=1&iact=hc&vpx=175&vpy=326&dur=3897&hovh=175&hovw=287&tx=109&ty=73&sig=101781190994432040183&page=1&tbnh=120&tbnw=196&start=0&ndsp=18&ved=1t:429,r:6,s:0 I think this picture shows how Atticus, Scout, and Jem are happy even without a 'complete' family.
i agree when you said that Jem and Scout do a good job at dealing with life while lacking a mother. Also, i agree that Atticus does his best at being a father and mother like figure.
Atticus does the best of his ability to handle his role as a single parent. He sees the world in a different light from the rest of southern society that has a deeply ingrained dogma of how children should be raised. This is seen when he conflicts with Alexandra saying "Sister I do the best I can with them." Atticus chooses what he thinks is acceptable and he is respectfully detached from most affairs of his children. However, he is still there to give advice and heed his children when they need it, so in all, he does not a superb job, but an acceptable job of being an adequate parent. Furthermore, he uses Calpurnia as a mother-like figure in his children's lives, providing more care and thus making him a responsible single dad.
http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_SoOKOc8V1Q0/TDTtFl0IrvI/AAAAAAAAAKg/sUaiIy4zIDU/s1600/Single-Dad-picture.jpg In this picture, we see 2 children and a dad looking into the vast open plain. This represents Atticus and the children because they are partially ostracized from society (for defending a negro in the trial), leaving them to live without the approval of others. This shows how normally, it would be bleak and difficult, but because Atticus, Jem, and Scout are united (holding hands), they will overcome any obstacles in their path.
My question is: Why does Atticus not seem to care so much about Scout's not being feminine?
Answer to Question: Usually the role of making a person's daughter into a woman is the mother. Since Atticus is a single parent and doesn't know much about this field, he allows Scout to stay a tomboy. However, he eventually invites his sister to stay in order to guide Scout into womanhood.
Being a single parent is hard, especially if your the father. Usually, the mother takes care of the food and the shopping and taking care of the children more, but Atticus being a single parent is left to do this by himself. But with the help of Calpurnia, Atticus is doing his best to raise Jem and Scout right. Calpurnia is shown as mother-like to Jem and Scout, cooking and teaching them manners. Atticus doesn't be the express his affection to his children the way other parents may. "...he treated us with courteous detachment."(6) He raises Jem and Scout to show respect, like how they call him by Atticus not "Dad". But yet,he can still help his children by giving them advice and leading them the right direction. But Atticus doesnt force Jem and Scout to change who they are. For example, Aunt Alexandra doesn't like how Scout is not as feminine as other girls, but Atticus doesn't make Scout change who she is.
I agree Kim! Being a single parent is hard, but Atticus certainly does his job to do his best. Though he is not the most affectionate dad, he still shows his love for his children in multiple ways like teaching them about life.
Being a single parent is very difficult for someone. Every time, you see your children it reminds you of the one you used to love. I believe Atticus is taking the role and trying his hardest. He is teaching them with the Basis of morals. That is all he can do. He is doing better than a lot of the other parents in educating a child and preparing her for the real world. He may not be the sharpest tool in the shed but he is able to teach his children what counts and that is all that matters.
I think Atticus is getting along okay. In the beginning he didn't really spend a lot of time with Jem and Scout and like the book says, he treated them with "courteous detachment"(6). However, I think as the book goes on and Scout and Jem mature and become more affected by Atticus's case, he makes it a point to look after them and guide them through all the trouble, and along the way, he gets to know his children. For example, Scout wanted to beat up Cecil Jacobs and every other kid that made fun of her dad or called him "a nigger- lover", but she remembered Atticus telling her not to get angry towards anyone when it came to his case. This shows that Atticus has an influence on their lives. Also in chapter 15, when Scout has her conversation with Mr.Cunningham, she leaves the men with their jaws dropping to the ground, including Atticus. When Atticus tries to get Jem to leave, Jem stands up to him and declares that he won't. I think Jem and Scout both manage to surprise Atticus, but it goes to show that he's starting to get to know his children and see them through the eyes of a father instead of a lawyer.
http://newspaper.li/static/41fc70ae82288ce958520cfc6a8d1f08.gif This is a picture of a maze and I think it's perfect for Atticus's situation. He starts out in beginning and the dead ends and confusion represent the arguments (between him and Aunt Alexandria or between him and Jem)and the confusion and shock he experiences while getting to know his children.
My question is: If Atticus was so good with a gun that he was named One-Shot Finch, why is he so ashamed of it that he never even mentioned it at least ONCE to Jem and Scout?
I think that he may have been ashamed of what his past was and what he did. He may also not want his children to do what he did, since now he also strongly believes in justice and freedom, the opposite of what killing animals interprets.
I believe that Atticus is doing an overall good job in fulfilling his role as a single parent. He has a job, a house, and a good reputation. He is also able to feed, clothe, and educate his children. All add up to make the exact formula for an overall successful parent. However, a few things are missing, such as emotion, the open feelings of love, and playing the roles of each of the parents for his children. Atticus does not openly express his love towards his children. He is also unable to fulfill playing both roles of each parent, which may harm his children later in their lives. He is only able to be the father of his children, and he does so very informally. From my own experience of being raised by a single parent for the majority of my life, I know that this position can be very hard for the parent. You face many challenges that you must overcome for the sake of your children. I believe that Atticus does a good job overcomeing these challenges and being the supportive father his children need, even if he cannot be both parents.
Picture: I think that this picture/quote explains where Atticus is in terms of his current relationship with his children and where he would like to be, and also how society should recogize where he is. http://www.google.com/imgres?q=single+parenting+quotes&hl=en&gbv=2&biw=1280&bih=826&tbm=isch&tbnid=QQEM8GinhK2g-M:&imgrefurl=http://www.lilblueboo.com/2011/08/single-parenting.html&docid=dpkYxkXpfqFUFM&itg=1&imgurl=http://www.lilblueboo.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/08/56890473_W9ZTOlaU_c.jpg&w=400&h=266&ei=4fAYT_PFF4mriQKIwrjLCA&zoom=1&iact=rc&dur=0&sig=103405232239053452105&page=6&tbnh=142&tbnw=211&start=66&ndsp=12&ved=1t:429,r:8,s:66&tx=160&ty=40
Something to think about: Do you think that Atticus ever thinks about getting remarried? If so, why doesn't he?
I AGREE!!! Personally I think Ms. Maudie would be perfect because she can add that color and cheer into his life. Even though the book never shows Atticus thinking about his wife, the movie showed him feeling so sad and depressed on the swing. I want to know what Scout and Jem's mother was like, not through Jem's eyes, but through Atticus's eyes.
I do agree that Atticus is doing a good job, but i think that everyone expresses emotion in a different way and that Atticus, while he doesn't openly say it, through his actions it properly get conveyed to Jem and Scout
Although Atticus Finch is a single parent that has to juggle work and two kids, he doesn't lack in both areas. Atticus is described as "courteously detached," but it is still obvious that he loves Jem and Scout. He puts them before anything else which is shown when he shoots a mad dog that is a danger to his kids although he hates taking the life of any living creature. Moreover, Atticus respects his kids and doesn't lie to them. These traits makes Atticus a suitable single parent. PHOTO:http://www.google.com/imgres?um=1&hl=en&biw=1366&bih=641&tbm=isch&tbnid=tzqibxQqTxdPaM:&imgrefurl=http://www.stuartduncan.name/autism/an-ode-to-the-single-parent/&docid=b5qJBVPeyWZ9JM&imgurl=http://www.stuartduncan.name/wp-content/uploads/2010/12/single_parent1.png&w=345&h=380&ei=xvgYT77JO-eniAKmtamkCA&zoom=1&iact=hc&vpx=1111&vpy=164&dur=764&hovh=236&hovw=214&tx=151&ty=95&sig=115734735106234162609&page=1&tbnh=133&tbnw=121&start=0&ndsp=23&ved=1t:429,r:7,s:0 Question: Why did Atticus get Jem and Scout air rifles although he disapproves of hunting and taking the life of the anything living?
I think that at the beginning of the novel, Atticus didn't seem like a father figure. However, as we read more, we find out that he does serve as a father and takes care of his children. He may not be as close to his children as other fathers, but he is still able to talk to them and care for them. He teaches them right from wrong. For example, he tells Jem and Scout that blacks are just as good as whites. He teaches his children very important life lessons.
Question: Why did Atticus never tell Jem and Scout about his talents (playing the Jew's Harp, checkers, One-Shot Finch)?
In this picture, the tree represents Atticus. It is reflected in the water, because his actions and thoughts influence Jem and Scout. For example, because Atticus sees blacks as equals, Jem and Scout do too. http://www.chiligetti.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/11/Image-End-Landscaping-620x300.jpg
Atticus does a great job being a parent I say because he sees his kids as people and does not put himself above them, he tries to teach them but not command them, and in all honesty his methods work better than most because the family is saved of excessive conflict. As afore mentioned, his "courteously detached" manner is what keeps his relationship intact with his kids. Growing up in a single parent household with a mom who turned 18 20 days after i was born forced me to grow up fast and have a unique parent child relationship. To all parents this song is a great message from kids who are grateful by the up and coming Emirati group, Desert Heat.http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jJlDiDZsw_Y
Being a single parent, Atticus would naturally have a harder time raising kids, because they have to be the mother and the father. However, Atticus has Calpurnia to be a motherly figure, so he is able to raise them well. Though his work is demanding during cases, he is still able to spend a good amount of time with each of his kids, along with doing an amazing job as a lawyer. http://winecountrymom.blogs.santarosamom.com/files/2010/05/single-parent1.jpg This picture shows that being a single parents is extremely hard and that it is a "superpower" Atticus can still do it extremely well.
My question for you guys is: Why did Atticus choose to keep the good parts of his past a secret? Was he ashamed of them? Did he just not think Scout and Jem were old enough yet?
The relationship that Atticus has with his kids is most easily described by Scout in the book as courteous detachment. As this is an extremely cliche phrase I would like to say that Scout considers this a good strategy in parenting. Most parents would disagree that this role is too little in the children's lives. But Scout with the little information, experience, and maturity she has said this is that every child should be treated. Of course every child is different but here's an article that explains what can happen and why from psychological/pediatric perspective. http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2724162/
Personally, to me, Atticus is a magnificent single parent. Most parents have a hard time handling their children, but Atticus teaches Scout and Jem well about ethics and manners. Scout, a burning fire, is calmed by Atticus' teachings and lessons and shapes the children well. Atticus knows the challenge of being a single father and handles it well by being there for his children, teaching them the right things to do, and loving them twice as much. The picture below show the challenge of a single parent and the ability they have to raise and nurture their children. http://www.google.com/search?tbm=isch&hl=en&source=hp&biw=1366&bih=557&q=single+parent&gbv=2&oq=single+parent&aq=f&aqi=g10&aql=&gs_sm=e&gs_upl=899l2417l0l2556l13l10l0l1l1l0l206l1077l4.4.1l9l0
As a single parent, Atticus's job is very hard too take care of two children, who are nearing their teens. As, a father, it makes his job a lot harder to help Scout grow up as a woman because of her environment, and lack of a mother. But, he is very wise and patient with Jem and Scout. Some single parents, don't treat their children well, and have a hard time understanding them. So, to solve their problems, they would yell and beat their children. But Atticus has spent a long time being patient with his children, so he understands their feelings about things. He very much like a friend to Jem and Scout. He rarely scolds them, and tries to be understanding when trying to correct their wrong doings. At first, Atticus seems like the parent who was left with children, but has no idea what to do with them. Atticus's actions are always calm and collected, which actually set a great example for Jem and Scout. His calmness and serenity prove to be great qualities, in which Scout and Jem came to respect and look up to him.
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Atticus acts just how a good father shoulde act, he teaches his kids, he mentors them through right and wrong, and he sacraficed the way he loved before he had children. However his father influence is not enough for being a single parent because a female influence i missing and it is especially crucial to how scout is. Since she doesn't a mother to guide her to be like a female she uses her dad therfore she acts more manly.
In my opinion, i believe Atticus is doing a wonderful job as a single parent. Most single moms or dads spend most of their time working to put food on the table and dont even know what their kids do while their gone. Even though atticus is not always with his children he makes sure that they learn proper values and that they feel loved by him. sometimes children with single parents act out because they feel unwanted which then may lead them to a road of crime. Attucus does a good job of keeping his children safe, educated, and teaches them proper virtues that will carry them on through life. http://singleparentsfamilies.com/blog/children-of-single-parents-and-crime-rates/.html here is an article and graphs that show the relationship with single parents and child development
I think that Atticus is doing a pretty good job on being a single father. He has to go between his kids and his work constantly all by himself. Although he is busy he takes his time to read to scout and play football with Jem. He doesn't neglect their children and makes sure they get proper attention from him. Also by telling them that all people are equal he's steering them in a morally "correct" direction which should be beneficial. http://www.google.com/imgres?q=juggler+cartoon&hl=en&biw=1483&bih=873&gbv=2&tbm=isch&tbnid=25vrktB7LJjN6M:&imgrefurl=http://www.istockphoto.com/stock-illustration-8080555-juggling-cartoon-clown.php&docid=onDXDO8zFvuNtM&imgurl=http://i.istockimg.com/file_thumbview_approve/8080555/2/stock-illustration-8080555-juggling-cartoon-clown.jpg&w=294&h=380&ei=mhIZT6m6AsrKiQKSxeDSCA&zoom=1&iact=hc&vpx=473&vpy=167&dur=380&hovh=255&hovw=197&tx=142&ty=103&sig=110518552874393349028&page=1&tbnh=159&tbnw=124&start=0&ndsp=34&ved=1t:429,r:2,s:0 This image shows that Atticus has to juggle between all of the things he has to do and is doing a pretty good job about it
Although Atticus is doing a fine job as a single parent, why doesn't he consider remarriage? It would be beneficial to the children to have a mother other than a figure like Calpurnia. Do you think it is his own emotional problem? Does he think the children won't accept a new mother?
I believe that as a single parent, Atticus is doing a good job of encouraging his kids to be good, open-minded people. Atticus has provided Scout and Jem with the essentials, such as food, water, clothing, and a home. However, he could give them a more loving, caring environment to live in. His relationship with his children is “courteously detached”, although he provides for them like a father should. However, it is easy to see that Atticus really does love his children, and he has their best interests at heart. He is willing to do what is best for his children and tries to give them all that they need in order to grow. My question is: In what ways is Calpurnia like a mother to Scout, and how has Calpurnia influenced Scout to be who she is?
Atticus is doing a phenomenal job raising Scout and Jem considering he is missing the support of a significant other. He is committed to providing a safe, healthy, and comfortable environment for his children. For example, he encourages Scout to pursue her passion of reading despite the disapproval of her teacher. This simple act demonstrates Atticus’ supportiveness. He allows Scout to walk around in her own skin, which is simply a tomboy and even defends her when opposed by Aunt Alexandra. Moral qualities are also installed into his children, which is most important in my opinion. For example, he defends Boo Radley and explains to Jem why he took the Tom Robinson case. As he said himself, he is doing the best he can. As teenagers, we cannot fathom how much our parent figures truly do for us. Take a single individual and double that work and stress load. This cartoon embodies this idea that a single parent, such as Atticus, takes on many responsibilities. http://www.cartoonstock.com/newscartoons/cartoonists/cwl/lowres/cwln461l.jpg Now for my question, if Atticus’ wife had not passed away, do you think Jem and Scout would grow up differently? How?
i think that Atticus has a strong influence on scout and jem however he doesnt give them as much attention as a mother would show. He tries to discipline them as much as possible and relys on calpurnia to be their motherly figure. Jem and scout look up to Atticus.
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question: Why doesnt Atticus marry another women if he knows that the children need a mother?
Hey Tania! I think Atticus does not marry another woman because deep in his heart he still loves his wife, and that he feels Calpurnia does a good job being the kids'mother. Although she is black, she is well qualified and takes care of them by cooking for them and looking after them.
DeleteHey Tania! I agree with your point that Atticus gives them a lot of discipline and how a mother need to be there to give them the attention. I think Calpurnia is doing a great job of helping raise both Jem and Scout by continually telling them what is wrong and what is right.
DeleteHey Tania! I have to disagree with your opinion of how he doesn't give them as much attention. Atticus actually does give A LOT of attention. For example, when Scout was mad and sad after the whole problem with her teacher and the kid at school, Atticus was right there to comfort her and show her what is wrong and what is right.
DeleteHey Tania! I disagree because Atticus probably thinks Calpurnia already does a great job of taking the "motherly" place of the family. For example, she scolds Scout when Scout remarks on the way Walter Cunningham ate his dinner at the Finch's house. Also, I don't think Atticus is the type of man to remarry another woman, because it seems he loved his wife very much, and he will never forget her.
DeleteAtticus does give quite a lot of attention to his kids, more so than most parents in fact, because he tries to take his own advice and walk around in their shoes.
DeleteAtticus takes his role as a single parent seriously and wants to raise his kids with a good moral rectitude. When Jem annihilates Mrs. Dubose's flowers, Atticus comes home in a fit of cold anger, telling Jem to immediately go back and apologize. Atticus controls himself well under stress and has not yelled at Jem and Scout before. However, a father can only do so much. According to research a healthy family needs the love of a mother-like figure, which can be presented in Calpurnia, which is one of the reasons why Atticus wants Calpurnia to stay; she is part of the family.
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This photo shows how Atticus may feel on the inside without the external support and love from a spouse.
Question: Do you think Atticus does a good job of raising his kids? Keep in mind the usual chatter others may have against his kids, and Atticus' own POV.
Ex: While Aunt Alexandra thinks Atticus does a bad job, Atticus says "Sister, I do the best I can with them!"
Hey Jonathan! I agree with your point when Atticus sends Jem directly back to apologize to Mrs. Dubose. If Atticus would never told tell them what was wrong and what was right, both Scout and Jem would be very bad. I also believe that without Calpurnia, the Finch family would never succeed and be even poorer than Walter's family.
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DeleteYes, I do think that Atticus does a good job of raising his kids. It does not matter what others say what is right or wrong with they way he takes care of the kids. I think that Atticus proves the point to Jem and Scout that they control their life and it does not matter what others say.
To your question, I think that Atticus does a good job raising his kids. THey are tolerant to everyone(well, almost everyone) and he makes sure to do what is best for them no matter what.
DeleteAtticus is one of the few people in the world that actually want to raise their children correctly. Many children that are living with a single parent have a high chance of never growing up correctly. At many times, the father who is the only person to take care of the child becomes a drunkard and never will become sober. When Jem or Scout do things that are unappreciative towards others, Atticus quickly tells them what is right so that they can learn from their mistakes. Even though that Atticus raises the children the best he can, the kids still need a mother, which is why Atticus has hired Calpurnia.
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Hey Rohun. I have to disagree with your view on Atticus' parenting and single parents in general. I was raise my entire life with a single parent and a lot of my friends and other family members have also. We are all good kids and it doesn't matter whether you have a single parent (including single fathers) or two parents, it all depends on how they parent. Contrary, I know a few kids who have two parents and they can be more out of hand than those with one parent. Divorces may not always be a bad thing either, sometimes it's the only way to solve a problem. I think Atticus does a good job of representing how being a single parent is difficult, but can still be effective in raising good people.
DeleteWell Jalyssa, I believe in more people that the pod has died, this can convict to being more of the second parent not wanting to enjoy life as much as they did before.
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DeleteMoi question is "Do you think that Scout is a tomboy because of Calpurina or because of having no real mother
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I don't think Scout is a tomboy just because she has no real mother. Calpurnia does a great job taking over the mother's job, and if anything, Scout should be a real girl. Scout is a tomboy just because that's who she is, possibly influenced by her brother, but not because she has no mother. You were wrong in your observation: Scout even says she doesn't remember her mother much.
DeleteAgreed, Atticus actually tries to connect with his kids and understand their lives. However, i take Jalyssa's side on the single parent issue, I've been raised by a single mom since i was 9 months old, and i only see my dad for about 3-4 weeks out of the year, but I'm still what people would call a "good kid"
DeleteI believe your view on Atticus' parenting is indeed correct and I agree that most of the other dads are drunkards and leave their wives to take care of the kids.
DeleteI believe that scout is a tomboy because of the male influence in her life. Dill Jem and Atticus all play a major factor in this. She wants to fit in. So she acts like a tomboy.
DeleteAs a single parent, especially being a dad not mom, Atticus is doing a great job of teaching and taking care of Jem and Scout. He is always there for them when they have question or problem and makes sure to tell them which is right. He even sometimes gives THEM the chance to choose the right road. The only problem with him as a single parent, is that he makes Calpurnia do the cooking, some of the disciplining, and take care of the children when he's gone.
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My question: Why didn't Atticus ever tell Jem and Scout about his "job" as a "gunner?"
I think that Atticus didn't tell Jem and Scout he was a gunner is because he didn't want them playing with guns or doing anything that might harm them. If he had told them then he would be hypocritical and it would make the children think it would be okay for them to do the same.
DeleteI think that Atticus didn't tell Jem and Scout about his talent with guns because he knew that his children look up to him as a role model, and doing dangerous things would influence them in the wrong way and possible endanger their lives.
DeleteI think Atticus is slightly ashamed that he had a job as a 'gunner.' I believe so because now he believes in equality and justice. Also, if you own a gun and shoot living things, it criticizes the idea of equality.
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DeleteHey JJ! You said that you thought the task of parenting could be fulfilled by just a single parent. How does Atticus, then, fill the role of a white mother in a southern society? Remember that the book also mentioned that "Atticus was just a man" and couldn't understand some girl issues.
DeleteYeah i agree with ALbert. I dont think you can ever fully replace a mother because she'll always care for you even when a father doesn't have time for you.
DeleteScout didn't have anyone when Jem and Dill started excluding her, she just went to Ms. Maudie which shows that sometimes a female figure is needed. A
Justin, I don;t think Atticus told his kids about being a gunner because it is not something he is especially proud of. He does it when it is needed, but it is not something he would, in essence, brag about. Being a lawyer, he wants to be taken seriously.
DeleteAs I mentioned while commenting Rohun's comment, I think Atticus is doing a pretty good job raising his children as a single father. Although he is not the perfect parent, he is only human. Parenting is a hard thing to do, and most people have a partner to help them, Atticus doesn't. Think about it, he lost his wife, yet he still holds his head up and is a successful lawyer both for himself and his children. He is not bitter or depressed, he's strong for his children and that's what matters. His children respect them, even if they don't agree with everything he does, but no kid really agrees with their parents all the time. In short, Atticus' parenting has some flaws, but he is doing the best he can in supporting for his children, thus fulfilling the parent figure.
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I agree with you Jalyssa. I think that although Atticus is not very close to Jem and Scout, he still is seen as a figure to be respected. They respect him and listen to what he has to say. As Jem and Scout see how courageous Atticus is, they begin to have courage as well.
DeleteYour attached media Jalyssa is quite powerful. I could not fathom the hardships that accompany the role of a single parent. Raising children into healthy, successful individuals without the mental, physical, and financial help of a significant other is an extremely difficult task and in my eyes, a talent. Single parents who have the ability to bring forth outstanding human beings into this world all by their lone selves truly are super heroes.
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ReplyDeleteDo you think that, when Scout thinks of her mom, she see's Atticus' wife or Calpurnia?
I believe that when Scout thinks of her mom, she sees Calpurnia. Scout does not remember her mother very well, and Calpurnia has been a role model and figure that has been there for her all her life, so Calpurnia is the most likely choice
DeleteI think that when Scout thinks of her mom, she thinks of Calpurnia because she never saw her mother before. On the other hand, Calpurnia has been there for Scout for many years, so she has become sort of the "mother" of Scout.
DeleteScout could think of anyone not just Calpurnia because she has other mother figures like Miss Maudie
DeleteI believe that subconsciously Cal is scouts mom. however when she puts thought into it she begins to think of her real mom and what she was like.
DeleteI think Calpurnia is more of a mom to Scout than her birth mother ever was, since Calpurnia has actually known Scout through her childhood. Scout barely knows her real mother, so Calpurnia serves as the main motherly figure in Scout's life.
DeleteI think that Atticus is doing a good job of raising Jem and Scout. Even though he lost his wife and has to support the family by himself, he does not complain and he is not depressed. It must be pretty hard for Atticus since he can't provide the love that two parents would give to his children.
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I agree with you Elijah. Atticus does a really good job putting in the hard work and effort into successfully raising Jem and Scout. He takes the burden of two parents and does not complain nor give up.
Deletei agree with you elijah because atticus never complains and really does try his best to be a good parent even with the loss of his wife.
DeleteI agree that he is doing his best to do whatever he can even though a female figure isn't there to support him he is doing great given his situation
DeleteAs a single parent, I think that Atticus tries to raise his kids using the best of his abilities. With the help of Calpurnia, I think that the kids are in a great environment where each day they can learn new things. Atticus is putting his best effort in to discipline his children and teach them the way of life and how it should be lived.
ReplyDeleteMY question is: To Jem and Scout, do you think that Calpurnia is more of a housekeeper or more of a mother?
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Hey Bill! I think that Calpurnia is more of a mother to Jem and Scout, but the problem is that she can never be like their real mother. This is a southern society filled with the racist attitudes that whites were superior to blacks, and to have a black mother was frowned upon in that time. Cal still has a maternal presence, as she rebukes Scout for not being nice to the guests and teaches them morals, things a normal housekeeper wouldn't do.
DeleteI agree Calpurnia is a motherlike figure to jem and scout and that she really can never be a real mother to them. discrimination in this society does have a major effect to the attitudes towards colored people
DeleteThe life of a single parent is hard. Your husband, or wife, has either passed away or left you, and you will be very lonely. Only your children can comfort you, and not even that will be enough. You must do everything alone: caring for your kids, working at your jobs, cleaning up the house, etc. I believe Atticus does well raising his children Jem and Scout. He doesn't complain, he only does his best teaching his children and keeping them from trouble.
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This is a picture of a dad nagging and yelling at his son. It seems like he's angry, but he does it out of love, which Atticus is never seen doing to Scout or Jem.
I totally agree with your thoughts because when Aunt Alexandra comes to Atticus's house, she forces and pressures Atticus into becoming a more strict and disciplined father. However, Jem and Scout find it very unusual because Atticus never actually pushed them to be "normal" Finches.
DeleteI believe Atticus never noses into his children's business or nags them because he is just not that type of person. Even in court when the argument escalates he still manages to act courteous and detached to a certain point.
DeleteI disagree Rohun. Millions of children have single parents and they are able to grow up great! That is just a sterotype of a single parent family.
DeleteAtticus has lived as a single parent for so long that the children are used to having only Atticus as their parent. I believe that Atticus is doing an excellent job with raising his children because Jem and Scout slowly begin to show their individual thinking as they grow up. Atticus has showed so much care for his children, but when Aunt Alexandra suddenly shows up, she turns the whole household around. Atticus teaches his children to be self-disciplined yet independent in their thoughts.
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This picture shows a young child in the middle of a long and windy road. With the help of a parent, the child can be guided through the long and windy roads of life.
I do agree that Atticus is doing a very good job and is doing good by teaching his children self-discipline
DeleteThe media you attached Athena is reflective of this time period and is almost symbolic of Scout. Scout must face the road full of obstacles placed before her, with the support of Jem and Atticus. Atticus is doing his best to encourage her on.
DeleteAs a lawyer, Atticus is able to calmly and objectively handle the situations at hand. Similarly, Atticus handles his kids and their actions with a "courteously detached" but firm manner. As a single parent and with the only help from Calpurnia, he has done relatively well. His children generally follow his demands, and threats, and are generally well-behaved. Though Aunt Alexandra thinks otherwise, Scout is still an innocent, little girl with good intentions. Though I am personally starting to dislike Jem as he grows up and starts changing dramatically, he means well also.
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ReplyDeleteKiyaan, i agree with you on what you said about him not putting himself in front of his kids, because that wouldnt be good parenting. Also, i think that he does a very good job of dealing with the death of his wife and pushing himself to keep the kids well mannered and not breaking down inside and doing a very good job at his role of being a single father.
DeleteAgreed Justin, he's good at treating them like adults, not just little kids, giving them the respect and space they need
DeleteI think that Aunt Alexandra was trying to push Atticus into teaching and disciplining his children to be the "normal" Finch. Aunt Alexandra wants Scout to be more lady-like and to mature. However, Scout is slowly maturing and growing into Atticus's shoes. Aunt Alexandra sees Scout's growing as unusual and tries to push her into the image of the normal Finch.
ReplyDeleteQuestion: When Aunt Alexandra comes into the Finch family, she turns the way of living upside down. Why doesn't Atticus reject her help when she is trying to slowly conform them into the ideal Finch family?
ReplyDeleteAtticus probably tries to avoid arguments out of respect for his sister, but he definitely disagrees with many of her beliefs. As Scout observes, he quarrels much more with Aunt Alexandra than with anyone else.
DeleteI think Atticus handles his role as a father well for being a single parent. He listens and talks to his kids when he has the time and always put his children first. He also gives them good advice that they can apply in the future. One example was when Scout starts talking to Mr. Cunningham in Chapter 15 and remembers how Atticus said ..." it was the polite thing to talk about what they were interested in..." (154) Also, with no mother, the kids would never experience a motherly relationship. However, I think Calpurnia treats the kids as if they were her own.
ReplyDeletepicture. I think it shows how his kids are growing up and maturing.
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My question: Do you guys think Tom Robinson and Boo Radley have similar personalities?
I do not necessarily think that they have similar personalities. However, I do believe that they share the same feelings and emotions throughout the novel. Both experience the feeling of loneliness. Boo Radley is hidden in the dark, and is slowly being "eatten away" by the harsh words and thoughts shared by the community surrounding him. Tom Robinson is a black man being accused of crime against a white women, and is openly hated by the majority of society.Both characters indirectly share the same treatment from society.
DeleteAtticus is a great single parent, because usually children with a single parent may be a little different than children with both parents. People used to say little children would be unhappy since they wouldn't receive any of their mom's love, but Scout and Jem are able to happy even without receiving any of their mom's love. Due to a motherly figure, Cupernicus, they both are able learn things they would have learned from their mother. Even though Atticus may be busy he always had the time to sit down and talk to his child about the problem.
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I think this picture shows how Atticus, Scout, and Jem are happy even without a 'complete' family.
i agree when you said that Jem and Scout do a good job at dealing with life while lacking a mother. Also, i agree that Atticus does his best at being a father and mother like figure.
DeleteAtticus does the best of his ability to handle his role as a single parent. He sees the world in a different light from the rest of southern society that has a deeply ingrained dogma of how children should be raised. This is seen when he conflicts with Alexandra saying "Sister I do the best I can with them." Atticus chooses what he thinks is acceptable and he is respectfully detached from most affairs of his children. However, he is still there to give advice and heed his children when they need it, so in all, he does not a superb job, but an acceptable job of being an adequate parent. Furthermore, he uses Calpurnia as a mother-like figure in his children's lives, providing more care and thus making him a responsible single dad.
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In this picture, we see 2 children and a dad looking into the vast open plain. This represents Atticus and the children because they are partially ostracized from society (for defending a negro in the trial), leaving them to live without the approval of others. This shows how normally, it would be bleak and difficult, but because Atticus, Jem, and Scout are united (holding hands), they will overcome any obstacles in their path.
My question is: Why does Atticus not seem to care so much about Scout's not being feminine?
Answer to Question: Usually the role of making a person's daughter into a woman is the mother. Since Atticus is a single parent and doesn't know much about this field, he allows Scout to stay a tomboy. However, he eventually invites his sister to stay in order to guide Scout into womanhood.
DeleteBeing a single parent is hard, especially if your the father. Usually, the mother takes care of the food and the shopping and taking care of the children more, but Atticus being a single parent is left to do this by himself. But with the help of Calpurnia, Atticus is doing his best to raise Jem and Scout right. Calpurnia is shown as mother-like to Jem and Scout, cooking and teaching them manners. Atticus doesn't be the express his affection to his children the way other parents may. "...he treated us with courteous detachment."(6) He raises Jem and Scout to show respect, like how they call him by Atticus not "Dad". But yet,he can still help his children by giving them advice and leading them the right direction. But Atticus doesnt force Jem and Scout to change who they are. For example, Aunt Alexandra doesn't like how Scout is not as feminine as other girls, but Atticus doesn't make Scout change who she is.
ReplyDeleteI agree Kim! Being a single parent is hard, but Atticus certainly does his job to do his best. Though he is not the most affectionate dad, he still shows his love for his children in multiple ways like teaching them about life.
DeleteBeing a single parent is very difficult for someone. Every time, you see your children it reminds you of the one you used to love. I believe Atticus is taking the role and trying his hardest. He is teaching them with the Basis of morals. That is all he can do. He is doing better than a lot of the other parents in educating a child and preparing her for the real world. He may not be the sharpest tool in the shed but he is able to teach his children what counts and that is all that matters.
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ReplyDeleteI think Atticus is getting along okay. In the beginning he didn't really spend a lot of time with Jem and Scout and like the book says, he treated them with "courteous detachment"(6). However, I think as the book goes on and Scout and Jem mature and become more affected by Atticus's case, he makes it a point to look after them and guide them through all the trouble, and along the way, he gets to know his children. For example, Scout wanted to beat up Cecil Jacobs and every other kid that made fun of her dad or called him "a nigger- lover", but she remembered Atticus telling her not to get angry towards anyone when it came to his case. This shows that Atticus has an influence on their lives.
ReplyDeleteAlso in chapter 15, when Scout has her conversation with Mr.Cunningham, she leaves the men with their jaws dropping to the ground, including Atticus. When Atticus tries to get Jem to leave, Jem stands up to him and declares that he won't. I think Jem and Scout both manage to surprise Atticus, but it goes to show that he's starting to get to know his children and see them through the eyes of a father instead of a lawyer.
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This is a picture of a maze and I think it's perfect for Atticus's situation. He starts out in beginning and the dead ends and confusion represent the arguments (between him and Aunt Alexandria or between him and Jem)and the confusion and shock he experiences while getting to know his children.
My question is: If Atticus was so good with a gun that he was named One-Shot Finch, why is he so ashamed of it that he never even mentioned it at least ONCE to Jem and Scout?
I think that he may have been ashamed of what his past was and what he did. He may also not want his children to do what he did, since now he also strongly believes in justice and freedom, the opposite of what killing animals interprets.
DeleteI believe that Atticus is doing an overall good job in fulfilling his role as a single parent. He has a job, a house, and a good reputation. He is also able to feed, clothe, and educate his children. All add up to make the exact formula for an overall successful parent. However, a few things are missing, such as emotion, the open feelings of love, and playing the roles of each of the parents for his children. Atticus does not openly express his love towards his children. He is also unable to fulfill playing both roles of each parent, which may harm his children later in their lives. He is only able to be the father of his children, and he does so very informally. From my own experience of being raised by a single parent for the majority of my life, I know that this position can be very hard for the parent. You face many challenges that you must overcome for the sake of your children. I believe that Atticus does a good job overcomeing these challenges and being the supportive father his children need, even if he cannot be both parents.
ReplyDeletePicture: I think that this picture/quote explains where Atticus is in terms of his current relationship with his children and where he would like to be, and also how society should recogize where he is.
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Something to think about: Do you think that Atticus ever thinks about getting remarried? If so, why doesn't he?
I AGREE!!!
DeletePersonally I think Ms. Maudie would be perfect because she can add that color and cheer into his life. Even though the book never shows Atticus thinking about his wife, the movie showed him feeling so sad and depressed on the swing.
I want to know what Scout and Jem's mother was like, not through Jem's eyes, but through Atticus's eyes.
I do agree that Atticus is doing a good job, but i think that everyone expresses emotion in a different way and that Atticus, while he doesn't openly say it, through his actions it properly get conveyed to Jem and Scout
DeleteAlthough Atticus Finch is a single parent that has to juggle work and two kids, he doesn't lack in both areas. Atticus is described as "courteously detached," but it is still obvious that he loves Jem and Scout. He puts them before anything else which is shown when he shoots a mad dog that is a danger to his kids although he hates taking the life of any living creature. Moreover, Atticus respects his kids and doesn't lie to them. These traits makes Atticus a suitable single parent.
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Question: Why did Atticus get Jem and Scout air rifles although he disapproves of hunting and taking the life of the anything living?
I think that at the beginning of the novel, Atticus didn't seem like a father figure. However, as we read more, we find out that he does serve as a father and takes care of his children. He may not be as close to his children as other fathers, but he is still able to talk to them and care for them. He teaches them right from wrong. For example, he tells Jem and Scout that blacks are just as good as whites. He teaches his children very important life lessons.
ReplyDeleteQuestion: Why did Atticus never tell Jem and Scout about his talents (playing the Jew's Harp, checkers, One-Shot Finch)?
In this picture, the tree represents Atticus. It is reflected in the water, because his actions and thoughts influence Jem and Scout. For example, because Atticus sees blacks as equals, Jem and Scout do too.
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Atticus does a great job being a parent I say because he sees his kids as people and does not put himself above them, he tries to teach them but not command them, and in all honesty his methods work better than most because the family is saved of excessive conflict. As afore mentioned, his "courteously detached" manner is what keeps his relationship intact with his kids. Growing up in a single parent household with a mom who turned 18 20 days after i was born forced me to grow up fast and have a unique parent child relationship. To all parents this song is a great message from kids who are grateful by the up and coming Emirati group, Desert Heat.http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jJlDiDZsw_Y
ReplyDeleteBeing a single parent, Atticus would naturally have a harder time raising kids, because they have to be the mother and the father. However, Atticus has Calpurnia to be a motherly figure, so he is able to raise them well. Though his work is demanding during cases, he is still able to spend a good amount of time with each of his kids, along with doing an amazing job as a lawyer. http://winecountrymom.blogs.santarosamom.com/files/2010/05/single-parent1.jpg This picture shows that being a single parents is extremely hard and that it is a "superpower" Atticus can still do it extremely well.
ReplyDeleteMy question for you guys is: Why did Atticus choose to keep the good parts of his past a secret? Was he ashamed of them? Did he just not think Scout and Jem were old enough yet?
The relationship that Atticus has with his kids is most easily described by Scout in the book as courteous detachment. As this is an extremely cliche phrase I would like to say that Scout considers this a good strategy in parenting. Most parents would disagree that this role is too little in the children's lives. But Scout with the little information, experience, and maturity she has said this is that every child should be treated. Of course every child is different but here's an article that explains what can happen and why from psychological/pediatric perspective.
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Personally, to me, Atticus is a magnificent single parent. Most parents have a hard time handling their children, but Atticus teaches Scout and Jem well about ethics and manners. Scout, a burning fire, is calmed by Atticus' teachings and lessons and shapes the children well. Atticus knows the challenge of being a single father and handles it well by being there for his children, teaching them the right things to do, and loving them twice as much. The picture below show the challenge of a single parent and the ability they have to raise and nurture their children. http://www.google.com/search?tbm=isch&hl=en&source=hp&biw=1366&bih=557&q=single+parent&gbv=2&oq=single+parent&aq=f&aqi=g10&aql=&gs_sm=e&gs_upl=899l2417l0l2556l13l10l0l1l1l0l206l1077l4.4.1l9l0
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As a single parent, Atticus's job is very hard too take care of two children, who are nearing their teens. As, a father, it makes his job a lot harder to help Scout grow up as a woman because of her environment, and lack of a mother. But, he is very wise and patient with Jem and Scout. Some single parents, don't treat their children well, and have a hard time understanding them. So, to solve their problems, they would yell and beat their children. But Atticus has spent a long time being patient with his children, so he understands their feelings about things. He very much like a friend to Jem and Scout. He rarely scolds them, and tries to be understanding when trying to correct their wrong doings. At first, Atticus seems like the parent who was left with children, but has no idea what to do with them. Atticus's actions are always calm and collected, which actually set a great example for Jem and Scout. His calmness and serenity prove to be great qualities, in which Scout and Jem came to respect and look up to him.
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This picture shows 3 people happily laying down with each other. It shows the closeness of Atticus and his children. He isn't just a father, he's also a friend to Jem and Scout.
Atticus acts just how a good father shoulde act, he teaches his kids, he mentors them through right and wrong, and he sacraficed the way he loved before he had children. However his father influence is not enough for being a single parent because a female influence i missing and it is especially crucial to how scout is. Since she doesn't a mother to guide her to be like a female she uses her dad therfore she acts more manly.
ReplyDeleteIn my opinion, i believe Atticus is doing a wonderful job as a single parent. Most single moms or dads spend most of their time working to put food on the table and dont even know what their kids do while their gone. Even though atticus is not always with his children he makes sure that they learn proper values and that they feel loved by him.
ReplyDeletesometimes children with single parents act out because they feel unwanted which then may lead them to a road of crime.
Attucus does a good job of keeping his children safe, educated, and teaches them proper virtues that will carry them on through life.
http://singleparentsfamilies.com/blog/children-of-single-parents-and-crime-rates/.html here is an article and graphs that show the relationship with single parents and child development
Question is "Would Scout still be a tom boy if she had a mom?"
ReplyDeleteI think that Atticus is doing a pretty good job on being a single father. He has to go between his kids and his work constantly all by himself. Although he is busy he takes his time to read to scout and play football with Jem. He doesn't neglect their children and makes sure they get proper attention from him. Also by telling them that all people are equal he's steering them in a morally "correct" direction which should be beneficial.
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This image shows that Atticus has to juggle between all of the things he has to do and is doing a pretty good job about it
Although Atticus is doing a fine job as a single parent, why doesn't he consider remarriage? It would be beneficial to the children to have a mother other than a figure like Calpurnia. Do you think it is his own emotional problem? Does he think the children won't accept a new mother?
ReplyDeleteI believe that as a single parent, Atticus is doing a good job of encouraging his kids to be good, open-minded people. Atticus has provided Scout and Jem with the essentials, such as food, water, clothing, and a home. However, he could give them a more loving, caring environment to live in. His relationship with his children is “courteously detached”, although he provides for them like a father should. However, it is easy to see that Atticus really does love his children, and he has their best interests at heart. He is willing to do what is best for his children and tries to give them all that they need in order to grow. My question is: In what ways is Calpurnia like a mother to Scout, and how has Calpurnia influenced Scout to be who she is?
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Atticus is doing a phenomenal job raising Scout and Jem considering he is missing the support of a significant other. He is committed to providing a safe, healthy, and comfortable environment for his children. For example, he encourages Scout to pursue her passion of reading despite the disapproval of her teacher. This simple act demonstrates Atticus’ supportiveness. He allows Scout to walk around in her own skin, which is simply a tomboy and even defends her when opposed by Aunt Alexandra. Moral qualities are also installed into his children, which is most important in my opinion. For example, he defends Boo Radley and explains to Jem why he took the Tom Robinson case. As he said himself, he is doing the best he can.
ReplyDeleteAs teenagers, we cannot fathom how much our parent figures truly do for us. Take a single individual and double that work and stress load. This cartoon embodies this idea that a single parent, such as Atticus, takes on many responsibilities.
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Now for my question, if Atticus’ wife had not passed away, do you think Jem and Scout would grow up differently? How?